RealMamaNoDrama

So for my birthday I thought it would be fun to take a look back and see what the last ten years have taught me, I thought I would call it, a list of my absolutes.... A few “ absolutes” my twenties have taught me..... First thing I thought the last decade has taught me was.....There are no absolutes! Only someone with no life experience would think there were. ;) If you asked me ten years ago I would have told you I would ABSOLUTELY NEVER be a stay at home mom, I would never drive a mini van, I would never homeschool, I would never ever do X, Y and Z. Blah blah blah. I am. I do. I will. And I have done A through Z!  But still just for fun....these are my “ absolutely-for-nows” ........ It is absolutely OK to look in the mirror and not recognize yourself! In fact it’s great, it means you are evolving. Why oh why do we think we know who we are so concretely, so young? Then we waste years (our twenties) trying so hard NOT to be someone “we’re not”....We essentially

 I swear I am not a hater..... usually...today? Maybe.... I like the VS clearance catalogs just as much as the next girl, albeit when I am feeling especially large and in charge I do toss them in the garbage with a certain level of anger before I even cracking the front cover, but you'll just have to trust me this was not one of those times. I was not especially bitter or anything of the sort while thinking these not so nice comments. I just truly feel like this latest edition was just a little off.  I don't know exactly why but the poses seemed stranger than normal, the sexy under tones not so under or toned down but more so in your face and over the top. You tell me if you were thinking any of the same things I was as I went through the pages. Here is a small sample of my thoughts.  Is she trying to prove she has clear nostrils??? Maybe her probation officer took this pictures. Nah, she probably just smells a french fry. Is she trying to pop her booty like Beyonce? Does

Today was a great meeting of the minds with some girlfriends and as usual we all discussed our lives. Today I discussed openly the problem I have with negativity, not just my own but others and how when I am trying to be positive how their negativity drives me nuts. It’s truly a great group of women you are speaking with when you don’t just walk away feeling heard but also with sound advice. Two things stayed with me after our conversation, first that I can only control my behavior (although I take that as a challenge ;) lol and second that happiness is a choice and we all have to choose it for ourselves, I can’t make that choice for another. (again a challenge)  I thought to myself, that what I can do though is live my boring little life in such a manner that people think, if she can be that happy all the time then I can too! Then I can pray that it makes it seem that much more attainable for themselves and they too will choose to find happiness. So that’s my challenge for myself to t